Social Confidence Mastery is the result of years spent agonizing over how to overcome barriers to self-expression. It is an encyclopedia of techniques that help many of my clients achieve confidence. I’ve helped guys fix countless body language and tonality issues. I’ve taught conversation skills and provided training in mindset transformation. Those who are willing to take action have amazing results.
They start socializing daily for a few weeks and finally feel a rise in self-esteem as new acquaintances smile and engage in playful conversation. This is essential when you are beginning to come out of your shell. But this newfound happiness depends on the positive reactions of those around you. It’s a shallow pride disguised as confidence. A rude comment could easily throw you off your mountain of apparent success and toss you down into an abyss of negative thoughts as you are reminded what you actually think about yourself.
Build Permanent Social Confidence
When you are dependent on the environment for your good mood, as soon as you spend a few days alone, that positivity disappears. You sink into a negativity even lower than usual. Confidence isn’t a special skill, although certain learned social skills can form key components of it. Confidence is free flowing expression. It is creativity allowed to run free without fear. It is a natural result in an emotionally healthy mind that feels happy with its present situation. Minimize resistance and you will accept more success into your life.
Some people confuse confidence with competence. When you are competent at something you know what to do in that situation. So you might look confident, but in any other situation you are shy. Confidence means you are relaxed and feel free to express yourself as you like. Confidence is not a skill you learn by mimicking confident body language over time. It is freedom from social inhibition. Social confidence means you feel free to talk to anyone about anything.
How Much Social Confidence Do You Have?
Everyone has a baseline for the degree of free flowing confidence/happiness they experience on a daily basis. If your baseline is 10 out of 10 you are completely fearless, maybe even to the point of recklessness. If your baseline is 1 out of 10 you might feel completely ashamed of yourself and hate your life.
Of course most people are somewhere in between these two extremes. If your usual baseline is 4 out of 10 and then you suddenly start going to parties every day for a month you could inflate that number all the way up to 8 out of 10 or higher.
But since you depend on that social environment for your good feelings, as soon as you spend a few days away from it, those negative thoughts and feelings that kept you stuck at 4 out of 10 return and pull you back down to where you internally believe you belong.
It is however possible to feel confident enough in any new situation without developing the necessary competencies over time. You’ve probably known plenty of confident people who were actually complete idiots and didn’t know what they were doing. So where did their confidence come from? Usually, it comes from their beliefs and self esteem.
You don’t need to develop irrational beliefs to be confident though. Meditate on your fears and social inhibitions that are holding you back. Examine your beliefs to overcome the negative thoughts limit your freedom.
You can only attract into your life what you feel you deserve.
Social Confidence Mastery contains the most effective ways of increasing that baseline for more permanent solutions to confidence rather than the temporary high of faking it till you make it.
Life coaches, Cognitive Behavioral Therapists, and psychologists all enthusiastically recommend exposure to fears until they no longer trigger the fight or flight response. This is of course essential. However, developing situational confidence in parties doesn’t mean you can comfortably navigate every social situation. You might get great at speaking with cute strangers you force yourself to talk to, but inside you still don’t feel you deserve positive attention from others. Even though you become an expert at pretending to be 9 out of 10, inside you still feel like a 4.
Instead of looking outside for your happiness and confidence, it’s time to look inside and pay attention to what’s already present.
Depending on the outside world for your self-esteem and confidence convinces yourself you aren’t enough. Assume you are already enough and don’t need anything external to determine your confidence baseline.
Would you like to stop worrying about rejection?, learn how to enjoy conversations?, fix poor body language and negative feelings constantly holding you back from expressing yourself?
If yes then I hope you’ll read Social Confidence Mastery. It integrates concepts from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Exposure Therapy, a diverse selection of social anxiety conquering tasks and much more. I have personally tested all of these and can vouch for their utility. I’ve also worked with clients to develop confidence building plans based on their own needs and baseline. Those who commit see at least satisfactory results and a measurable reduction in social stress.
This book combines outer technique (body language and social skills) with inner strength (happiness & authenticity) You don’t need to chase happiness and confidence. Chasing it only reinforces the negative belief that you lack it! This book provides multiple paths to reconnecting with your inner confidence and expressing it authentically.
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