If you want to overcome fear of rejection then pay attention to how it manifests. You could feel anxious talking to new people, worried to approach someone you want to get to know, or scared of confrontation. Wanting some social approval is fine, as long as you don’t base your self-worth on it. Overcome fear of rejection to finally make friends and confidently express yourself in every situation.
If nobody cared about social approval at all, we would all be self-centered psychopaths! Society wouldn’t be able to survive! The problem arises when you care so much about winning everyone’s approval that it fills you with dread to do simple things like start a conversation or share your real opinion. Luckily, there are great techniques for overcoming fear of rejection.
How to Overcome Fear of Rejection
People who can’t handle rejection get stuck in an ever decreasing comfort zone. They can’t handle rejection because they always run away from it. When you embrace the reality that rejection is inevitable it makes life much easier.
Embracing rejection makes you stronger. You can’t be loved by everyone. So don’t worry when someone isn’t interested in you. Eventually you’ll find the people who appreciate you. By putting yourself in situations where rejection is possible you learn to handle it. It’s the most effective method to overcome fear of rejection.
It can be difficult to take that first step. But remember, it gets easier. In fact some people get huge benefits from rejection therapy. Every day they look for opportunities to get rejected. It could be something as asking to borrow a few cents from someone, or asking someone for a date. While doing this, you accept the possibility of rejection instead of resisting it. This makes rejection much easier to handle when it happens.
When you think about it, it’s obvious why rejection is so uncomfortable. It’s because you’ve placed all your happiness in getting that result you want from someone.
Maybe you hope a cute girl smiles and asks you questions when you talk to her. But when she rolls her eyes and ignores you, maybe it feels bad because you were depending on a positive reaction to feel good about yourself. Instead she was rude. Maybe she has poor social skills. But you can see her rude reaction as a gift. It’s an opportunity for you to practice not caring about rejection at all.
In fact, I never frame interactions like that as rejection at all. I give people an opportunity to know me, and if they don’t take it, then I don’t care at all. I don’t need those positive reactions from everyone to feel good about myself.
Taking action and accepting the consequences is an essential part of self-growth. If you can be honest with yourself about fearing rejection, then you are ready to face these challenges to build confidence.
It’s important to reframe your social interactions positively. Losers are losers because they think they are. They are constantly looking for evidence to support the belief they are unsuccessful in life, business, dating, and everything. Dwelling on unpleasant memories keep them stuck in the past.
Confident people learn from mistakes, but focus on all the positivity in their lives. Even if they aren’t successful in any way yet, they still focus on their potential to improve their situation.
Negative thoughts destroy your energy. It makes you tired to constantly criticize yourself and doubt that people could accept you. Whenever you doubt that people will accept you, then you just make it much more likely that they will! Because that self-doubt screams loudly in the form of your body language and the way you speak.
Create the World you Want to Live in.
If you are shy, I obviously don’t mean create a world where you don’t need to interact with anyone. that’s just supporting fear. Your environment is the biggest factor in determining your confidence. If you never have opportunities to grow, you never will.
If you want to develop the new habit of approaching new people without fear of rejection, it can be very difficult if it isn’t a habit. You feel confused because you are a newbie when it comes to social skills. It is even more difficult when avoid situations where rejection is possible.
That means your usual environment might be staying at home, except for meeting up with a small group of friends once in a while. You are used to this safe environment where you never need to confront the fact you are terrified of rejection. If suddenly you try to start a conversation with a new person you want to know, maybe you get nervous and stutter because it just isn’t what you are used to doing in you usual routine.
But if you make it a habit to surround yourself with new people, and go socialize a lot. You will inevitably face opportunities to embrace rejection. The truth is, it usually won’t even be a harsh rejection at all. And very often you will meet friendly people who won’t reject you. They won’t necessarily want to become your new best friend, but at leas you will finally believe rejection isn’t inevitable every time you open your mouth.
Do you have any advice on how to overcome fear of rejection? Leave it in the comments!
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