I’ve come up with an important question I like to ask other men. Your answer to this question points out exactly how selfish you are versus how concerned you are for your fellow human beings. Even more importantly, your answer accurately indicates how much of your potential you are willing to sacrifice in the pursuit of short term pleasures.
A question that can change your life:
“Would you rather have all the strengths, and abilities of Superman but be forbidden from sexual intimacy with any woman, or have a harem of over one hundred attractive women all willing to do anything to satisfy you?”
I’ve asked many guys this question, and I found the most common answer surprising. Before I mention which choice that is, lets dissect this question further.
If you have all the abilities of Superman imagine all the amazing feats you could accomplish. You could help improve the world in unlimited ways. You could save lives, prevent disasters, and perform miracles while reminding the normies that the real superhero resides inside every person.
But not only would you be able to contribute greatly to humanity, you could also fearlessly do whatever you want. Finally, instead of being plagued with anxiety you would effortlessly approach any new task because you know nothing can hurt you in any way.
You could build exactly the world you want to live in.
Imagine flying through the sky, feeling invincible. The only rule would be no woman is allowed to ever touch your dick again, or you die the most agonizing death ever. Could you do it?
That’s What You Get for Trying to Touch Super Dick Bitch.
The other option is much more tempting to younger guys without much dating experience. Biology compels them to mate with as many ladies as possible. So upon hearing that superhuman invincibility means no more getting laid they feel scared. They are too attached to the biological imperative and completely dismiss how much they could accomplish with superhuman abilities.
Which Would You Choose?
Every man I’ve asked chooses the harem. Sexual pleasure, especially with an unlimited supply of the most desirable women is too attractive a bait for a man’s genes to ignore. No matter what abilities, wealth or other benefits you add to the superhuman abilities option, most guys aren’t willing to sacrifice that natural procreative instinct to achieve them.
Of course this is only a hypothetical question, but it does provide insight into a man’s priorities. He may want to achieve greatness in his career, or other goals, but if it means he can’t pass on his genes it suddenly isn’t worth it.
I am curious, do you have any goals for which you would give up sex forever in order to accomplish? Some people convince themselves they aren’t very interested in sex. If that’s you, then how many of your short term pleasures are you willing to give up in order to accomplish you major life goals?
The majority of normal people who enjoy sex will answer “no” to that question. Life is mediocre, goals are tough to accomplish and sex is one of the great ways we relieve stress and build intimacy. It’s tough to imagine suddenly living without a part of life you feel you need.
Why Not Be Superhuman!?
When I had a lot less dating experience I probably would have chosen the harem too. I’ve always had lots of goals, but before accumulating dating experience I was often distracted.
I needed that experience before I could focus on myself. However, I’ve noticed some guys go too far and spend huge portions of their lives dating hundreds of girls and just never stop. This isn’t a moral judgement. Sex is fun and you should indulge yourself with a period of casual fun as you figure out dating skills and things of that nature. Eventually though, focusing on yourself will become much more rewarding.
The problem is, if you spend all your time dating as many girls as possible, you are also sacrificing enormous amounts of time you could devote to improving yourself in other areas of your life.
You could learn to make money, improve your health, and learn other skills that are important to you.
The point of this question is to think about how your hedonistic tendencies may interfere with things that are actually important to you. Sex feels good, and so do many other habits that prevent you from realizing your potential.
What Would I Choose?
Now I would choose to be superhuman. I desperately want to achieve my potential, even if it means sacrificing short term pleasures. It’s much easier for me to abstain from activities that provide instant gratification as I’ve built more productive habits.
I remember when I would eat lots of sugary foods, and waste hours playing video games and browsing the Internet every day. I got plenty of short term pleasure from these activities but I accomplished so little. The lack of achievement stressed me out and I coped by just engaging in more destructive procrastination.
It took several attempts to figure out how to build lifelong habits of productivity but I finally wake up at a consistent time each morning, go to the gym, read, write, study languages, and other skills and still go to martial arts classes. I’m also working on a new business i’m confounding recently. Without solid habits I wouldn’t be able to do even half these things in half a day. You can find out how to do this in 10 Days to Lifetime Self-Discipline.
Ambitious people have lots of goals. But it takes sacrifice to achieve them. However, the biggest sacrifice of all is giving up on your potential.
Pay attention to how you spend every moment of your day. If you waste hours every day on Tinder or other dating apps and aren’t getting the quality or quantity of results to make it worth the time you invest then take a serious look at what you would rather spend your time on.
How much time do you waste on other unproductive activities? Examine how your manage your time. At first, it will be difficult to cut out time-wasters. But you will get used to it. And when you finally start living up to your potential it will finally be worth it.